Or just that you stop telling yourself stories for two minutes?
Let's be honest.
At the slightest inconvenience, nowadays, there's always someone to say:
— “Perform a ritual.”
— “Purify.”
— “Cut the ties.”
- " Manifest. "
— “Align your chakras.”
Did you miss your train?
➡️ Ritual.
Is your ex ignoring you?
➡️ Ritual.
Is your boss toxic?
➡️ Ritual.
Have you been tired for the past six months?
➡️ Ritual + rose quartz + herbal tea + lunar prayer.
At this rate, we're not living anymore, we're just doing our jobs.
But let's ask the real question:
👉 Does your situation really require a ritual…
Or just a little bit of lucidity?
Ritual is not a “fix my life” button.
Bad news.
The ritual is not:
❌ Cosmic customer service
❌ a universal hotline
❌ A corrector for flawed decisions
❌ an eraser with consequences
Lighting a candle does not:
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don't make your relationship healthy
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don't turn a toxic job into a vocation
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does not replace a difficult discussion
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does not cure burnout
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It doesn't make your traumas disappear like magic.
Sorry.
Even with organic incense.
When we use rituals to avoid growing up
Let's be frank with each other.
Sometimes, a ritual is not performed for spiritual reasons.
We do it for comfort.
Because :
It's simpler than:
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to say “that no longer suits me”
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set a limit
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leave
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ask for help
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to admit that one was wrong
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confronting a void
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accepting an end
So we do:
✨ A liberation ritual ✨
instead of a real choice.
✨ A ritual of forgiveness ✨
instead of a real conversation.
✨ A ritual of abundance ✨
instead of re-evaluating his relationship with money.
It's prettier.
Less risky.
Less confrontational.
But much less effective.
“I’ve performed three rituals and they’re not working.”
Famous quote.
Translation :
“I make symbolic gestures without changing my behavior.”
Surprise.
The universe is not fooled.
Neither is your unconscious mind.
You can burn 40 sheets of paper with your intention written on them.
if you continue to make exactly the same choices,
Nothing will change.
It's not bad luck.
That's consistency.
Before any ritual: an emotional check is mandatory.
Before bringing out the mystical artillery, do this:
Sit down.
Breathe.
And ask yourself:
👉 What am I REALLY feeling?
Not the Instagram version.
Not the “it’s okay” version.
The real one.
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Am I sad?
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Exhausted?
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Frustrated?
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alone ?
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angry ?
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Lost?
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betraying me?
Often, the answer is:
“I need rest / honesty / a choice / support.”
Not :
“I need a golden candle.”
When a ritual is truly relevant
Yes, sometimes the ritual is appropriate.
Really.
Not a gadget.
Not a cover-up.
🌑 When something ends
Relationship.
Project.
Period.
A version of you.
A ritual allows us to say:
“Thank you. Goodbye. I'm joining.”
Without pretending it doesn't hurt.
🌕 When something begins
A new beginning.
New decision.
New posture.
An anchoring ritual:
“I take this seriously.”
🔥 When you're going through a real storm
Burnout.
Existential crisis.
Collapse.
There, the ritual becomes a symbolic refuge.
Not a denial.
When it's better... to do nothing mystical
Yes, it exists.
❌ When you just want to avoid
If your ritual is for:
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anesthetize
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dissociate
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flee
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minimize
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pretend
Stop.
It's not spiritual.
That's chic avoidance.
❌ When you're waiting for a miracle
If you think:
“I do this and my life will change without me changing.”
No.
Absolutely not.
Even serious witches go to therapy.
The first real ritual: staying with you
Without music.
No filter.
No story.
Just you.
With your discomfort.
Your fatigue.
Your questions.
It's uncomfortable.
So we avoid it.
And we prefer to purify.
Small rituals that work better than big ones
Spoiler alert: these are often the simplest ones.
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sleep
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drink water
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to write
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to walk
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ranger
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say no
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turn off your phone
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ask for a hug
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cry
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breathe
Not sexy.
But powerful.
Your ritual should reflect who you are.
If your ritual resembles a Pinterest copy-paste,
It's not yours.
The true ritual is:
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what touches you
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that calms you down
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what anchors you
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which makes you honest
Not what is considered “spiritual”.
No, performing rituals does not make you an evolved person.
I'm sorry again.
You can do 12 rituals per month
and be toxic.
Consciousness is primarily seen in:
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your way of loving
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to respect
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to apologize
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to set limits
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to repair
Not in your candle collection.
The final question
Before each ritual, ask yourself:
Am I doing this to get closer to myself…
Or to avoid me?
If it's to avoid you,
Place the candle.
And stay.
Conclusion: Less smoke and mirrors, more truth
The world doesn't need more automatic rituals.
He needs people:
lucid
sensitive
responsible
living
Sometimes spiritual.
Sometimes lost.
Always honest.
And that,
It's already quite magical.
☀️🌙